Many couples go through a period of time where they find that they are less than satisfied with their intimacy in their relationship. They used to have great intimacy and somehow it changed. Many couples can’t figure out why it changed and how to get it back. While it is normal to have phases and changes in intimacy over time, it doesn’t have to be the “new normal” and stay that way. Here are some factors that may be contributing to your intimacy troubles in your relationship:
All of these factors can be addressed and worked on in your relationship. Your situation is not hopeless. Many if not most couples experience intimacy issues during their marriage. Intimacy, just like other parts of your relationship, evolve, change over time and can deepen your connection.
So you have decided to focus on yourself and have started exploring the idea of counseling. Congratulations, you have taken the biggest step of all towards a healthier, stronger you. The counseling world can feel overwhelming and confusing if you are not familiar with it. Here is some information for you when you are looking for the right counselor and what to consider.
Sometimes we get stuck in our own thoughts and it is not a good thing because we might have negative thought patterns. Did you know that our thoughts, feelings and reactions are all connected? So what we think affects how we feel and act. What we do affects how we think and feel. How we feel affects what we think and do. By recognizing a negative thought and reframing that thought you can also change the feeling or lessen the feeling which then could change your reaction. Lets look at the steps for how to reframe your negative thoughts:
Often times couples that have been together for awhile or have experienced the life change of having children will find themselves struggling to feel emotionally connected to their partner or spouse. They will often say that they do not feel the same way they used to about their partner or spouse and that they want to feel closer to them emotionally. This can happen because life is busy and it can be challenging to find things to talk about other than work, the kids, the chores, the house etc… Here is a fun activity to help you begin rebuilding or strengthening your emotional connection with your partner or spouse.